Initially, you might think that sounds great — a whole relationship based on sex and romance — but honeymoons always end. The idea that it's normal and natural for men to date women five, 10, 15 or even 20 years younger than them is pretty firmly culturally ingrained at this point. You are essentially her guinea pig, as she experiments in the field of sex and relationships. Rachel Moheban-Wachtel Rachel Moheban-Wachtel is a psychotherapist in New York City for over 18 years and specializes in couples and relationship issues. Matthew Valentines is an online dating concierge, and executive director at PersonalDatingAssistants. Younger women are often attracted to the security that older men can provide them. For example, when a rapper in his late 20s dates a year-old celeb, people find it suspicious and harmful, but fewer people think a much larger, plus-years age gap between some celebrity couples is objectionable if the woman is in her 30s when they got together — these are fully grown women capable of making their own decisions and much less likely to be affected by peer pressure.
Rachel Moheban-Wachtel Rachel Moheban-Wachtel is a psychotherapist in New York City for over 18 years and specializes in couples and relationship issues.
The biggest mistake I see men make when dating an older women is not listening and talking too much about themselves. The bigger the age gap between you, and the younger she is, the more skewed the power dynamic will be in your favor. If you are going to date an older women you can use the opportunity to learn and grow. These are all very good and valid points. There are entire aisles filled with dating advice for women. Newly inspired, I set out and interviewed hundreds of single men and women.